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Understanding Mixed Emotions
I miss my old neighborhood friends. What should I do?
Answer: There is a saying that goes, "Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold." When you are second-guessing a decision to move, it is helpful to keep this verse in mind.
It is perfectly natural to miss your old neighborhood and neighbors, so don't feel badly about it. Instead, make plans to visit your old friends, or invite them to your new house. Allow them to share in this experience with you and let them know how much they mean to you.
In addition, make a concerted effort to get to know those in your new community. Join a local organization, get involved in local charity efforts, lead a child's scouting group or coach a sports team. Getting involved is key to feeling better about your move. With this attitude you can enjoy the best of both, the old and new.
I'm both happy and sad about moving. Is this normal
Answer: Completely. Most people experience many emotions during a move. Typically sellers are excited, but also a little scared and nervous. You might feel better about moving if you feel more in control of the process.
- Get a handle on your move by following these moving tips. They will help organize your move and put you in the driver's seat.
- Next, start a "moving journal." Validate your feelings by writing down your emotions. It will be an outlet for your nervous energy, excitement and fears. (And it is also fun to read a few years later once you are established in your new hometown.)
- It is also helpful to get to know as much as you can about your new neighborhood or town. This way you won't feel isolated or alone when you arrive. Make a special effort to seek out clubs or special interest groups that will help you meet new people.
- Finally, make plans to get together with friends or neighbors from your old neighborhood once you move. It will help you feel grounded and better able to deal with your changing moods and emotions.
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